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Harassed at Work. Everyday. By everyone.

So I work in Jewelry Production. Most people would not think of Jewelry production, or jewelry at all for that matter, to be a male-dominated arena. But it is. I firmly believe because of these father and son, third and fourth generation shops that the industry hit the 1960′s and …just… stayed there. It is like working with Madmen.

Over the years I have (sadly) come to terms with the sexual remarks in a language I don’t understand (thank you google translator) and the grabbing. My boss likes to rub my shoulders and pretend to strangle me– why? I don’t know, but it is effing weird. And I do not like it.

After the first few months at this job I stopped doing my hair and stopped wearing dresses. It was not worth the tears of anxiety I would later have that day because of the disgusting things customers and coworkers would say to me. Now I come to work in jeans and a big hoodie. Have the sexual comments stopped? Nope.

Then there is that one male customer in his 50′s who always calls me “Babe”.

And that other 50 year old guy who keeps asking me for drinks, despite the fact that I say “No” every single time.

Oh and the creeper on the 4th floor who will take the elevator up to my floor just so he can walk by and stare at “My girlfriend”….. I am NOT his girlfriend… so that was news to me.

Or that one young charmer who stopped my male co-worker in the elevator and told him to “Get on that, why arn’t you already fucking that?!” … Hear that kids? I am a “that”.

And then there was the time a male customer in his 50s made jokes for weeks about how I was “banging” my boss simply because I went to a Jeweler’s Tradeshow with him. That was a fun week… luckily I don’t care what people think of me.

But this week… this week takes the cake.

Male customer (my age- late 20s) comes in and says:

“[My name], it’s my Birthday!”
“Happy Birthday!” I say with a huge smile.
“So, where’s my lap-dance?! You have to give me a lap-dance!”
“… No I do not.”

Perhaps sensing my anger, he ignores my scowl and dagger eyes, walks past me, and visits my boss.

Of course I was in a pretty irritable mood the rest of the day.

… And my boss wonders why I am not exactly “warm and bubbly” with all my customers… Yup… Just another day…

*Name kept anonymous due to the fact that this story is about my office, my source of income. I cannot risk my real name on this story.*

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It felt good to look him in the eyes tell him to STOP!

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“work it, you look good, yeah”
I was at a stoplight on my bike and responded “stop it” he continued and I said “that’s disgusting, stop talking to me”

I’m transporting myself home, not parading and getting fit for men to enjoy!
It felt good to look him in the eyes and tell him to stop :)

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This guy was average height and build, but I’m 5′ 4″, 110 lbs. If he or any cat-caller wants to hurt me, it wouldn’t be difficult.

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Jerk took a picture of me without consent

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WBEZ’s Natalie Moore takes on Street Harassment

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Our Chicago site leader, Katie Davis, was interviewed by Natalie Moore about Street Harassment in Chicago as part of International Anti-Street Harassment Week. Here’s her whole article: http://www.wbez.org/news/culture/art-takes-street-harassment-women-109953

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